tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post2231650837348082106..comments2024-01-15T21:18:14.060+01:00Comments on The Woman Condition: I is for Introverts.K.C. Woolfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-75595408143363058082011-05-08T18:17:29.243+02:002011-05-08T18:17:29.243+02:00@alison: I don't believe in it either.
It...@alison: I don't believe in it either. <br /><br />It's nothing but a framework, and I use it because it works for me, not because I think it's a blood-written truth. <br /><br />Frameworks are simplifications of reality and too general to peg anyone completely, but that doesn't contradict their usefulness. <br /><br />And we use similar ones all the time, e.g. to describe a person's looks, with characteristics like: short -> tall, bald -> long hair, etc. <br /><br />Those systems are useful for understanding and communication, because they provide a vocabulary. They're not meant to describe an individual in great detail, and even less to peg anyone, even though I'm sure some people use them that way.<br /><br />Thanks for your comment! :-)K.C. Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-72742600772247732272011-05-06T23:38:36.524+02:002011-05-06T23:38:36.524+02:00I don't believe in the Myer Briggs personality...I don't believe in the Myer Briggs personality test! Nor do I believe people are either extraverted or introverted. People assess me as an extravert, yet I go bonkers without sufficient 'me' time, and I always have my own thinking going on. I also tend to talk about problems and issues with total strangers! So, according to your definitions, I'm both extraverted and introverted and I'll be damned if you can peg me with a standardised test! <br />Having thus spoken, I do like your blog - and see we chose some of the same topics in the A-Z: Joy and You, so far - I'm reading the alphabet backwards! I guess that makes me in this moment reversoverted!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-16891942027143411722011-04-14T22:53:32.988+02:002011-04-14T22:53:32.988+02:00@Claire: if there's one thing I've learnt,...@Claire: if there's one thing I've learnt, it's that introverts don't need our pity. Every human character trait has advantages and disadvantages, depending on the situation we're in. And I believe that, the better we know ourselves, the more we can look for situations where we are at our best.<br /><br />@Tyrean: Thanks! It's interesting to meet an introvert who used to wish he were an extravert, whereas I know many extraverts I know who wish they were introverts. We are what we are, and I think that's great. The world needs all kinds of people, and we're capable of so much when we learn to work together and complement each other.K.C. Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-22610855601304844452011-04-14T16:14:18.366+02:002011-04-14T16:14:18.366+02:00Great post! In school we had to take tests on that...Great post! In school we had to take tests on that, and I wanted to be an extravert . . . in some strange hope that it would help me conquer my shyness. Well, I'm an introvert, and I get it more now. Introversion has nothing to do with shyness . . . although they are often linked. I can be very chatty and talky, and even loud and obnoxious. However, I still get re-charged in "alone" or "quiet, family" time. I don't want to be a hermit, but time alone is needed for me.Tyrean Martinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356604721537744361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-31648886794043436182011-04-12T01:31:07.238+02:002011-04-12T01:31:07.238+02:00Wonderful post. I'm an introvert and proud of ...Wonderful post. I'm an introvert and proud of it. I like how mention that introverted isn't antisocial. Sometimes people can think that and pity introverts. Depending on the situation introversion can be mistaken for arrogance, I've been there before.Claire Govertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16186520237984343706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-225545768648527282011-04-12T00:45:36.062+02:002011-04-12T00:45:36.062+02:00@Hweorfa: when people don't understand that in...@Hweorfa: when people don't understand that introverts need alone time to recharge, they tend to take it personally when the introvert takes off. As if it's a comment on them as people and they're bad, boring or demanding company, whereas it's got nothing to do with them.<br /><br />@Jan: I think I recognise that. I love being with people, but after a while I get what I call 'buffer overflow', and then I need to be alone, or with 1 or 2 people I know really well. With me, it's due to extraversion, but it's different for everybody. We're such wonderfully complicated creatures. :-)K.C. Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-88472817384093880552011-04-11T23:38:00.508+02:002011-04-11T23:38:00.508+02:00Everyone who knows me would peg me as an extravert...Everyone who knows me would peg me as an extravert but I'm not. I'm one of those weird folks that fall in the middle. I do like people and I like to talk and socialize but only to a certain point. Then I have to be by myself or I get all stroppy. I'm a closet introvert I guess. It's hard. boo hoo.<br /><a href="http://www.labanan.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Jan Morrison</a>Jan Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771180344305042855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-85870951069081940902011-04-11T23:25:00.379+02:002011-04-11T23:25:00.379+02:00Thanks for this posting - I really enjoyed it (and...Thanks for this posting - I really enjoyed it (and the links).<br /><br />I'm happy that my husband learned that I function much better as long as I get space for regular 'sanity breaks'. When I've been in interaction mode for a while I need to go & be on my own - it's a compulsion that's hard to explain to people who think I am just being anti-social! I'm happier spending time with others when I know I can take time out to recharge when I need to.Hweorfanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-53254245267966940032011-04-11T20:52:42.239+02:002011-04-11T20:52:42.239+02:00@Shelli: Introverts & extraverts make a great ...@Shelli: Introverts & extraverts make a great team, especially if they learn to take care of each other :-)K.C. Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-10056277485374961462011-04-11T20:32:56.044+02:002011-04-11T20:32:56.044+02:00I'm an introvert who married an extravert. We...I'm an introvert who married an extravert. We meld perfectly together. You are right, spending time with people is very emotionally draining, especially if they are high energy people. It is a growth process to learn how to do that, I've found.Shellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03068094486297918345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-88508045648716228352011-04-11T18:22:26.467+02:002011-04-11T18:22:26.467+02:00@C R: I've heard that a lot from introverts, a...@C R: I've heard that a lot from introverts, and noticed it a few times. When they've been around people for too long, without 'downtime' to recharge, they get fidgety, short, irritated, ...K.C. Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-75213118355575044672011-04-11T17:12:00.727+02:002011-04-11T17:12:00.727+02:00A definite introvert here. If I don't get a ce...A definite introvert here. If I don't get a certain amount of time away from people I start getting antsy. And I definitely need recharging when I've been interacting with people.<br /><br />I wonder if this is why I have such a problem with Twitter - it's like being in a huge party where you only know a couple of people.C R Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13212244053084461118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-87627763825224328162011-04-11T16:33:17.143+02:002011-04-11T16:33:17.143+02:00@mybabyjohn: that certainly sounds introverted. On...@mybabyjohn: that certainly sounds introverted. One of my friends described herself once as 'If I'd be any more introverted, I'd be a potted plant.' But 'live in a cave' is a good image too :-)<br /><br />@Michelle: Thank you. We certainly can. Understanding where other people's behaviour comes from is a great way to prevent / avoid unnecessary conflict.<br /><br />@L.G. Much of an extravert's problem is that so few people (extraverts included) really listen to what someone is saying. And when extraverts feel they're not being heard, that's when they'll become more dominant. <br /><br />@Nicole: a problem with many personality tests is that it's easier to measure behaviour than underlying motivations. <br />I often prefer to stay in as well, but not because I'm introverted. Being an analytical, more emotional extravert, it's taxing for me to be with people I don't have a lot in common with, in an environment where there's (open or hidden) conflict, etc. <br /><br />@50 foot QE: very kind of you :-) There are a few online personality tests if you'd want to figure out what the tests think you are ;-) <br />I particularly like this one: http://kisa.ca/personality/K.C. Woolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04047055661710059161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-54920290715726764012011-04-11T16:10:21.311+02:002011-04-11T16:10:21.311+02:00I am not sure if I am in or ex but I am sure that ...I am not sure if I am in or ex but I am sure that you have an interesting knowledge of people.<br />I like this post!50 foot QEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09697824892799344961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-9509889929094614732011-04-11T15:55:43.480+02:002011-04-11T15:55:43.480+02:00I am one of those rare people who switched from ex...I am one of those rare people who switched from extravert to introvert. It doesn't happen very often, I guess. I took the Myers-Brigg test in high school and college, ranking fully in the extravert category.<br /><br />Now, more than 20 years later, I am an introvert who would much rather stay in than go out. I used to love parties and social gatherings. Now they just tire me. I can still act the part of extravert but I have switched completely. Thanks for the great post!Nicole Amslerhttp://www.nicoleamsler.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-44005086875549028512011-04-11T15:54:41.094+02:002011-04-11T15:54:41.094+02:00Yep, you pretty much nailed it. I'm an introve...Yep, you pretty much nailed it. I'm an introvert, but I'm not shy or a people hater. Geesh, not the way I carry on on-line. But I do need my solitude. <br /><br />Actually, I appreciate the insight on extraverts. I have a conference I'm going to in a few weeks and this stuff always comes into play when a large group of introverts gets together. The extraverts generally own the room.Luanne G. Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15762881276976395955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-18967756691254828882011-04-11T15:36:06.394+02:002011-04-11T15:36:06.394+02:00thanks for posting this. we can all do with more u...thanks for posting this. we can all do with more understanding.Michelle Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05747275507200268417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7437166935957267035.post-58192699883660244212011-04-11T15:02:14.314+02:002011-04-11T15:02:14.314+02:00I guess I am an introvert....at least mostly. If ...I guess I am an introvert....at least mostly. If it wasn't for my husband I'd probably live in a cave somewhere. If you see me in a group with a glazed look in my eye and a fake smile on my face you'll know I've gone to my "happy place".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com